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The 4 Divorce Alternatives

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No two marital relationships are the same, therefore it just follows that no two divorces will be the same, either.

If you’re a lady who’s pondering divorce, you have several options about how to proceed. In general terms, you require to consider four broad categories of divorce options: Do-It-Yourself (Do It Yourself), Mediation, Collaborative and Lawsuits. Let’s take a look at the advantages and disadvantages of each one.

Do-It-Yourself Divorce

The very best advice I can offer you about Do-It-Yourself Divorce, is DON’T Do-It-Yourself!

The only circumstance I can picture when a Do-It-Yourself divorce might make any possible sense, might be in a case where the marriage lasted just 2 or three years and there are no kids, little or no assets/debts to be divided, comparable incomes and no alimony. In a case like that, a Do-It-Yourself divorce could be achieved quite rapidly and cheaply.

Mediation

In divorce mediation, a divorcing couple works with a neutral mediator who helps both celebrations come to a contract on all aspects of their divorce. Both celebrations still need to seek advice from with their own, private lawyers throughout the mediation and prior to signing the final divorce settlement arrangement.

Here are a couple of pros and cons to think about before choosing if mediation will work for you.

On the “pro” side, divorce mediation might:

  • Result in a better long-term relationship with your ex-husband considering that you will not “fight” in court.
  • Be simpler on kids because the divorce procedures might be more tranquil.
  • Speed up an arrangement.
  • Reduce costs.
  • Assist you stay in control of your divorce because you are deciding (and the court isn’t).
  • Enable more discretion. Mediation is private; litigated divorce is public.

On the “con” side, divorce mediation might:

  • Lose time and money. If negotiations fail, you’ll need to begin all over.
  • Be incomplete or unduly beneficial to one partner. If the mediator is inexperienced or prejudiced towards your husband, the result could be unfavorable for you.
  • Result in an unenforceable agreement. A mediation contract that’s lopsided or improperly prepared can be challenged.
  • Cause legal issues. Any concern of law will still need to be ruled upon by the court.
  • Fail to uncover certain possessions. Considering that all monetary info is voluntarily divulged and there is no subpoena of records, your spouse could possibly conceal assets/income.
  • Reinforce unhealthy behavior patterns. If one partner is dominating and the other is submissive, the last settlement might not be reasonable.
  • Fuel emotions. Mediation could increase negative behavior of a spouse with a propensity for physical/mental or drugs/alcohol abuse.

Couples often find out about the marvels of mediation and how it is supposedly a much better, less contentious, less expensive and more “dignified” method to get a divorce. My greatest problem with mediation is that the sole function and goal of the mediator is to get the celebrations to come to a contract– any arrangement! Keep in mind, the mediator can not provide any recommendations. All they can do is attempt to get you to agree. Not all contracts are great arrangements, and in fact, in many cases, no contract is much better than a bad agreement. So unless both celebrations can be fairly affordable and amicable (and if they can be, why are they getting divorced???), I believe that mediation is generally not a viable alternative for a lot of ladies.

Collaborative Divorce

Simply put, collaborative divorce occurs when a couple consents to exercise a divorce settlement without going to court.

During a collective divorce both you and your spouse will each work with an attorney who has actually been trained in the collective divorce procedure. The role of the attorneys in a collaborative divorce is quite various than in a conventional divorce. Each lawyer encourages and helps their customer in working out a settlement agreement. You will meet with your attorney separately and you and your attorney will also consult with your spouse and his lawyer. The collaborative process might also include other neutral specialists such as a divorce financial coordinator who will assist both of you resolve your financial problems and a coach or therapist who can help direct both of you through child custody and other emotionally charged problems.

In the collaborative procedure, you, your hubby and your respective attorneys all should sign an agreement that needs that both attorneys withdraw from the case if a settlement is not reached and/or if litigation is threatened. If this takes place, both you and your partner should begin all over once again and discover new lawyers. Neither party can utilize the exact same lawyers again!

Even if the collaborative procedure is successful, you will normally have to appear in family court so a judge can sign the agreement. The legal process can be much quicker and less costly than traditional litigation if the collective process works.

However, I have found that the collaborative method frequently does not work well to settle divorces involving complicated financial scenarios or when there are considerable assets. In collective divorce, simply as in mediation, all financial info (income, possessions and liabilities) is disclosed voluntarily. What’s more, numerous high net worth divorces include businesses and professional practices where it is relatively simple to conceal assets and earnings.

So … as a basic rule, my recommendation is this:

Do NOT utilize any of these first 3 alternatives– Do-It-Yourself Divorce, Mediation or Collaborative Divorce– if:

  • You suspect your spouse is hiding assets/income.
  • Your spouse is imperious, and you have trouble speaking out or you’re afraid to voice your viewpoints.
  • There is a history or risk of domestic violence (physical and/or mental) towards you and/or your children.
  • You or your other half has a drug/alcohol dependency.

Litigated Divorce

The 4th divorce option is the most common. Nowadays, the majority of separating couples pick the “standard” design of litigated divorce.

Bear in mind, however, “prosecuted” does not suggest the divorce winds up in court. In fact, the vast bulk of all divorce cases (more than 95 percent) reach an out-of-court settlement agreement. “Lawsuits” is a legal term significance ‘carrying out a claim.’

In 80 percent of cases, the choice to divorce is unilateral– one party desires the divorce and the other does not. That, by its very nature, creates an adversarial circumstance right from the start and typically disqualifies mediation and collective divorce, because both approaches rely on the complete cooperation of both parties and the voluntary disclosure of all financial information.

Clearly, if you are starting with an adversarial and highly emotionally charged circumstance, the chances are really high that partnership or mediation might fail. Why take the threat of going those routes when odds are they might stop working, losing your money and time?

The most crucial and most hard parts of any divorce are coming to an arrangement on child custody, department of assets and liabilities and alimony payments (how much and for the length of time). You want your attorney to be an extremely knowledgeable negotiator, you don’t want somebody who is excessively combative, ready to fight over anything and everything. An extremely controversial method will not only extend the pain and considerably increase your legal costs, it will also be emotionally harmful to everybody involved, especially the kids.

Remember: Many divorce attorneys (or at least the ones I would recommend) will constantly make every effort to come to an affordable settlement with the other celebration. However if they can’t concern an affordable settlement or if the other party is completely unreasonable then, sadly, going to court, or threatening to do so, might be the only way to resolve these issues.

Up till that point both attorneys were “negotiators,” trying to get the celebrations to compromise and come to some reasonable resolution. Once in court, the function of each attorney modifications.

And do not forget, once you remain in court, it’s a judge who understands extremely little about you and your family that will make the decisions about your kids, your property, your money and how you live your life. That’s a very big danger for both celebrations to take– and that’s likewise why the threat of litigating is generally such an excellent deterrent.

Here’s my last word of advice about divorce options: Weigh divorce options carefully. The bottom line is that every family, and every divorce, is different. Obviously, if you are able to work with your hubby to make decisions and both of you are honest and affordable, then mediation or the collaborative approach may be best. If you have doubts, it is good to be ready with “Strategy B” which would be the prosecuted divorce.

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